All things Relationships
Attack of the bruised ego
Take feedback as objectively as possible. Don't be married to your ideas and code. Instead explore, learn, be curious and continuously grow by learning from those around you. Maintain clear, open channels of communication. It will defuse tension and…
SayĹŤnara
I've been very quite. A year's worth of quiet to be exact. I'm sorry. I'm still here. I still plan on blogging, just a little differently now and maybe shorter posts. Writing is hard. Saying goodbye is harder. Writing to say goodbye, for me, is down…
Practice what you preach
"Your beliefs don't make you a better person, our behavior does." I have a far way to go on my journey. My journey of self-discovery and healing. It's a life-long journey and sometimes it's a real battle. Yes, it becomes absolutely exhausting. I str…
Change starts with you
Mahatma Gandhi says to start changing yourself if you want to change the life around you. "Change starts with you"... how cliché Clarice. Thanks for that one. Okay, I really feel I need to deep dive into this topic to make my intentions clear. It is…
Words define your reality
"Words are free. It's how you use them, that may cost you." - KushandWizdom How often do you listen to yourself when you speak? Not just hear your own voice but actually listen to the words that you use. Do you carefully choose the words you use? Th…
Discovering yourself
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ― Aristotle Sometimes I struggle to consciously understand my actions. This makes it hard for me to find out why I react the way I do in certain situations. In some cases I am proud of how I act but…
Rubyfuza 2017 Conference
I spoke at Rubyfuza 2017 in Cape Town about how Imposter Syndrome impacts my day-to-day decisions and confidence, affects growth by limiting opportunities and makes me feel unworthy. I wanted to share my experience & perspective of feeling like a fr…
Contributing to the README
When someone new works on your repository, make sure it is easy to get setup. Imagine if we didn't have any documentation; if we all adopted the mindset of "I already know this, let others figure it out on their own." No more books. No more Wikipedi…
Dealing with change in teams
It's sad when people leave because bonds are formed but we can't stay in the same environment and position forever. I had a bad experience. I once joined a team that had pressure from all angles. Fixed deadlines, unexpected and sometimes last minute…
People oriented software
The art of making software for people with people. Today the words "people oriented software" materialized in my mind. It's not a new (I Googled it) but it is new to me. As a software developer I naturally felt obligated to write about code and tech…
Bonding with Testers
Do you form relationships with testers? Teaming up with testers from the beginning of a feature can positively impact the quality of the feature being developed. At work we often get trapped in our roles. We develop the software so we should only co…
picsum.photosManage expectations
Do you keep business informed? Business won't know when things are not working out unless you tell them. It is surprising how much support we can get when we open honest channels of communication. Let's say you've settled into a corporate. You start…
You don't have to be a number
Do you feel like a number? Making a name for yourself in the software development community helps build street cred in the corporate world. When you join the corporate world, you become a number. At least, that is what I heard - and believed. The ga…
