All things Relationships

Attack of the bruised ego

Estimated 1 minute read

Take feedback as objectively as possible. Don't be married to your ideas and code. Instead explore, learn, be curious and continuously grow by learning from those around you. Maintain clear, open channels of communication. It will defuse tension and…

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Attack of the bruised ego

Sayōnara

Estimated 1 minute read

I've been very quite. A year's worth of quiet to be exact. I'm sorry. I'm still here. I still plan on blogging, just a little differently now and maybe shorter posts. Writing is hard. Saying goodbye is harder. Writing to say goodbye, for me, is down…

#59
Sayōnara

Practice what you preach

Estimated 4 minute read

"Your beliefs don't make you a better person, our behavior does." I have a far way to go on my journey. My journey of self-discovery and healing. It's a life-long journey and sometimes it's a real battle. Yes, it becomes absolutely exhausting. I str…

#49
Practice what you preach

Change starts with you

Estimated 3 minute read

Mahatma Gandhi says to start changing yourself if you want to change the life around you. "Change starts with you"... how cliché Clarice. Thanks for that one. Okay, I really feel I need to deep dive into this topic to make my intentions clear. It is…

#46
Change starts with you

Words define your reality

Estimated 5 minute read

"Words are free. It's how you use them, that may cost you." - KushandWizdom How often do you listen to yourself when you speak? Not just hear your own voice but actually listen to the words that you use. Do you carefully choose the words you use? Th…

#45
Words define your reality

Discovering yourself

Estimated 8 minute read

“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ― Aristotle Sometimes I struggle to consciously understand my actions. This makes it hard for me to find out why I react the way I do in certain situations. In some cases I am proud of how I act but…

#44
Discovering yourself

Rubyfuza 2017 Conference

Estimated 15 minute read

I spoke at Rubyfuza 2017 in Cape Town about how Imposter Syndrome impacts my day-to-day decisions and confidence, affects growth by limiting opportunities and makes me feel unworthy. I wanted to share my experience & perspective of feeling like a fr…

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Rubyfuza 2017 Conference

Contributing to the README

Estimated 4 minute read

When someone new works on your repository, make sure it is easy to get setup. Imagine if we didn't have any documentation; if we all adopted the mindset of "I already know this, let others figure it out on their own." No more books. No more Wikipedi…

#38
Contributing to the README

Dealing with change in teams

Estimated 3 minute read

It's sad when people leave because bonds are formed but we can't stay in the same environment and position forever. I had a bad experience. I once joined a team that had pressure from all angles. Fixed deadlines, unexpected and sometimes last minute…

#14
Dealing with change in teams

People oriented software

Estimated 4 minute read

The art of making software for people with people. Today the words "people oriented software" materialized in my mind. It's not a new (I Googled it) but it is new to me. As a software developer I naturally felt obligated to write about code and tech…

#13
People oriented software

Bonding with Testers

Estimated 4 minute read

Do you form relationships with testers? Teaming up with testers from the beginning of a feature can positively impact the quality of the feature being developed. At work we often get trapped in our roles. We develop the software so we should only co…

Manage expectations

Estimated 5 minute read

Do you keep business informed? Business won't know when things are not working out unless you tell them. It is surprising how much support we can get when we open honest channels of communication. Let's say you've settled into a corporate. You start…

You don't have to be a number

Estimated 3 minute read

Do you feel like a number? Making a name for yourself in the software development community helps build street cred in the corporate world. When you join the corporate world, you become a number. At least, that is what I heard - and believed. The ga…

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